Wednesday, October 3, 2012

Make Your Own Good News

When you wake up in the morning you have the ability to decide if it's going to be a good day or a bad day. I had a boss once who said "Whether you think today is going to be a good day or a bad day, you're probably right." This quote has stuck with me through the years and helped me through some difficult days. It's very true. A sad person simply isn't going to become happy while they are already predicting sadness. So if you wake up and say "oh great. I have to go to work today and it's going to be awful!" it probably is going to be awful.

But why? You didn't know you had psychic powers to predict the outcome of your day. If you did you'd be using it more effectively! Well, it's not anything like that. People react to negative energy with negative energy and react to positive energy with positive energy. If you tell yourself it's going to be a bad day, you go into your day already with a frown and putting off other negative vibes that the people around you can pick up. The things you say will sound glum, your body language will give you away and people will react accordingly. Think about it. If someone is passing you in a hallway and they are smiling, are you more inclined to say hello to them than if they were frowning? Certainly. The people who may have a chance to help you be happy will avoid you if you walk around acting gloomy. You will be so convinced that nothing good is going to happen today, that when the opportunity for something good comes your way, you won't even see it.

But making that mental shift isn't that easy, I know. If you're feeling this way to begin with, there is probably something serious going on in your life to cause it. Often these things lie in the past. The best way to deal with this is to just leave the problems of yesterday where they belong, yesterday. Focus on today. Just because yesterday was horrible doesn't mean good can't come from today.

If the issues do lie in the present day, you may need to ask yourself "what can I do to deal with this so that tomorrow can be better." Allow yourself a good cry if that's what you need, go and do something that you enjoy in order to take your mind off of what's hurting you. Don't dwell! You can't make yourself completely not think about your problems, but try and cut those thoughts off and replace them with positive thoughts. If you're down because someone has hurt you maybe you could try to think of the people in your life who love you instead. The negative thoughts creeping into your mind is something that's tough to control. But TRUST ME, YOU CAN STOP THEM! Whether or not these thoughts are expanded upon and perpetuated is within your control. This happened to me literally 10 seconds ago. I got a message on my phone that reminded of a very sad recent memory. The thought crept in. It dug down into my core almost instantly the way only true heartbreak can, but before that thought expanded from one mental statement into a whole paragraph or a book, I just shifted. I did not allow it to stay and here I am writing again instead of lying in bed wailing "WHY? WHY? into my pillow.

When you are depressed and down, idle time is the enemy. You absolutely have to keep busy in order to remain positive. Accomplishing things will make you feel good, while dwelling and feeling sorry for yourself will only make you feel worse.

I woke up today with the conviction that it was going to be a good day, and it is a good day. If I had decided that it was going to be a bad day, it surely would be.

"Think of all the good times, instead of wish we could times." Nick Hexum

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